Fomer abuse and night terrors

How can we overcome the former abuse that some children have experienced? How can we help them to develop trust in their new family when family life may have been a terror in the past?

Going overboard with accumulating things.

How does a child go from being an orphan who owns almost nothing to a child who wants and expects everything? Does this eventually level off or are we on a fast track to bankruptcy?

Negative influences

It seems like a natural desire to want the adopted children to make new friends and blend into society. How can we avoid friends that will be a negative influence on our vulnerable children?

Saying "No" ... immediate opposition

Why do so many adopted children seem naturally oppose the new authority figures. What can a parent do help the child want to cooperate?

Sibling rivalry

For families with other children who adopt it can be a difficult thing to mesh the chidren and make them feel like they are on the same team. Has anyone experienced problems in this area? Has anyone experienced a successful tactic to calm down the rivalry and increase the unity?

Annoying and irritating behavior

What do you do when your new child seems to annoy you or other family members? Do they outgrow this behavior? Help!!

Work avoidance--laziness

What do you do when a child refuses to help and complains when it is time to pitch in at home? Why does this happen? What is a parent to do?

Matching and clothing selection

Every child needs to be taught how to match their clothing. When children come from foreign countries where this is not important, it is hard to impress upon them the importance of dressing appropriately. Please comment on how to teach this.

Hygiene issues

Many adopted children have not been taught what you may consider "proper hygiene." Does anyone have any tricks for instilling good habits of personal hygiene?

Lying and dishonest behavior

What have you experienced and what can we do about adopted children who do not value honesty. How can honest behavior be taught and reinforced and dishonest behavior be eliminated?

Tattling

Has anyone had experience with children who want to get everyone else in trouble, including the parents? How can we calm down the eruption of tattling that often comes into an adoptive family.