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Sunday, August 29, 2010
Tattling
Has anyone had experience with children who want to get everyone else in trouble, including the parents? How can we calm down the eruption of tattling that often comes into an adoptive family.
This was a real problem for the first 6 months for our adopted kids. I guess they got more attention at the orphanage when they kept the leaders up to date on what the other kids were doing wrong. I think it is their way of trying to be the teachers or parents pet. Our kids came from Ukraine where everything is very competitive and so they thought that if they could make someone else look bad they would somehow be more elevated in status. They soon learned that telling on everyone was annoying to everyone else and they don't do it anymore. Hooray!
This was a real problem for the first 6 months for our adopted kids. I guess they got more attention at the orphanage when they kept the leaders up to date on what the other kids were doing wrong. I think it is their way of trying to be the teachers or parents pet. Our kids came from Ukraine where everything is very competitive and so they thought that if they could make someone else look bad they would somehow be more elevated in status. They soon learned that telling on everyone was annoying to everyone else and they don't do it anymore. Hooray!
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